Friends A and B got pretty much the same “problem” (or “situation” – I seem to be the only one who thinks it’s a “problem”). To put it short, one used to secretly wish her boyfriend would cheat so that she can break up with him. (She does not anymore, though I wonder how far that relationship can improve once you had that thought.) The other got nothing to talk with her boyfriend – so basically if one bumps into them in a restaurant may think they are strangers. (Okay I know peaceful silence is a normal course of relationship but isn’t it a bit too early for our age?)
And so I kept asking why don’t they end that relationship. One admits she’d rather be in a bad relationship than being alone, the other says she asked, but the boyfriend “said no”. They must hate me when I “demeaned” (I insisted I was just reflecting what they told me) their relationships. But I can’t stand two reasonably attractive, kind and intelligent friends claiming they don’t have a choice and believe “that’s the way life is” when they are still young – screw the thought of “getting marry before 30… even if I am not sure if he is the one”. If they decide to stick with this for a few more years, then really they will have no choice by then. They deserve better.
Or maybe ultimately I just turned out to be the most naïve one (I blame the lack of experience). Why do I still think being happy (or maybe I should use a “deeper” word, blissful) is the utmost priority in a relationship?
